When you and your spouse separated, you may have been the one to move out. Now you’ve got a new place to furnish and turn into a home. Maybe you’re the one keeping the family home (at least for now), but your spouse took all the workout equipment or kitchen goods when they left. Either way, you need some new stuff.
Increasingly, divorcing people are asking for a little help from their friends and family by setting up a gift registry. While these used to be solely for weddings and babies, more people are setting up divorce registries for everything from bath towels to dishware to furniture and larger items.
Where can you have a divorce registry?
Large companies like Amazon and Target let people set up custom registries for any occasion. The website Divorcist gives people a place to set up a divorce registry for gifts, cash or even favors. So when a friend, relative or colleague wants to help you but doesn’t know how, a registry lets them know what you need.
If you don’t feel comfortable directing people to your divorce registry, you can post it on one of your social media pages. That can help people feel less obligated to use it than a direct email (even a group email) might. Even if you only share it with a few people, it might be a good way to get that new desk you need to replace the one your spouse claimed or some help with moving.
You can ask for a little or a lot
While many people use divorce registries to fill in the holes left by the furnishings their spouse took, some people leave abusive situations with only a suitcase and some clothes. A registry can help them get a fresh start. On the other end of the spectrum, maybe you don’t “need” anything, but some calming candles would help ease the stress of the divorce process.
Certainly, a divorce registry shouldn’t have to make up for not getting a fair property division settlement in your divorce. You shouldn’t have to buy all new belongings because your spouse got them all. That requires careful consideration of what you want to keep and what you’re willing to part with. It also requires experienced legal guidance.