Divorce can be a very difficult undertaking no matter the circumstance, but one of the most sensitive aspects of divorce is breaking the news to the children.
Here are crucial mistakes you need to avoid when disclosing the news of your divorce to the kids for their well-being.
1. Blaming your spouse for the divorce
Even if your spouse’s behavior set the ball rolling for the divorce, blaming them for breaking up the family in the presence of the kids can do more harm than good. Doing so can strain the relationship between the kids and the other parent, and you genuinely do not want this.
2. Fighting in front of the kids
Studies show that parental conflicts during the divorce can have long-term negative effects on the kids. It is important that you avoid airing your grievances with your spouse in front of the kids. If you have something unpleasant to discuss, find a neutral location or do it by electronic means.
3. Asking the children to take sides
You want to foster a healthy relationship between your children and your co-parent. Never give the kids the impression that they have to “pick a side,” or that they can’t freely share their experiences when they’re with your ex. You don’t want to inadvertently shut down lines of communication between you and your children.
Divorce can be devastating, but an effective parenting plan can help put your children’s best interests first throughout the process. It can also help start you and your ex on a new path toward a workable co-parenting relationship.