Some people who have gone through a divorce have reported they were blindsided. Research shows that in 2021, for every 1,000 marriages, 13.6 ended in divorce. The chances are not everyone in this statistic expected the dissolution of their marriages.
Divorce is painful, but emotions can be managed if you know about it earlier. But can you predict one? Here are signs that may inform you of a coming divorce.
Not solving arguments
Arguments arise in marriages, but they should be solved. If you and your spouse no longer solve fights and all your interactions are negative, you may be headed for a divorce. This may especially be the case if you have suggested solutions like seeking counseling, but they refuse. Unsolved arguments for a prolonged period can result in a loss of intimacy and, eventually, a divorce.
You and your spouse are different. Therefore, it is normal to have respectful conflicts that should be solved afterward. However, you should be alarmed if you don’t fight anymore. One party may no longer see the value in voicing their opinions. This may be a sign of cutting emotional ties, which can lead to a divorce.
Further, conflicts may still be present, but one or both of you may withdraw during them. Shutting down may also indicate cutting emotional ties.
Too many bad memories
Marriages have ups and downs. However, it may be challenging if bad memories outweigh good ones. If you or your spouse has a constant negative description of the relationship due to the memories created during dating and in marriage, divorce may be around the corner.
Predicting divorce is not a happy epiphany. But it can prepare you psychologically if it happens. If you or your spouse initiates a divorce, understand your options to avoid costly mistakes.